Love Me NYC

About a month ago, I fell in love. The love swept me off my feet, took me across many oceans and seas, and I landed in supportive and loving arms which were held wide open for me. I didn’t see this coming — not right now. The love was peeking from around the corners, and it seemed to be always there, but it took two decades for the love to blossom in a true, mindful, and loving way.

Simply amazing but it got me thinking.

More often than not, we fall in love unconsciously if we listen to our hearts. Love by itself is a powerful trance state that tugs the heart strings when we think of, or are in the presence of the one. There’s no mistake there — we have fallen in love. The question would be: Do we step onto the next rung on the love ladder or do we abandon it for fear of commitment or insecurity of self? Should we choose to take the leap of faith and step onto the next level, we are also allowing intimate and sacred parts of ourselves to be shared and savoured by someone else. Also, because love happens on an unconscious level, it can only be sustained if we are able to find and connect with the one in a conscious, mindful manner.

What do I mean by this?

We are a living and breathing container of all our personal experiences, memories, and social and cultural conventions, which makes each one of us unique, with our own set of personality and character traits. We live in different realities, and no person other than ourselves would ever fully comprehend the intricate story of our personal lives. Emotions, feelings, and sensations are unique to ourselves and we can never project these onto someone else, expecting them to experience the same vibrations that we do. Hence, this makes the relationship of love extremely complicated. We can’t truly understand the other person, but we can feel for them. I hear the truth in these words: “You don’t know how much I love you”. I really don’t know how much love has been felt for me but I can feel the bubbling and heartwarming sensations of love in my heart. These feelings are however felt by me alone because only I am in my own body, but through body language, speech, and actions, I understand that I’m being loved.

There’s no perfect science to explaining love, but it’s rather simple. Love is imperfect, and it’s a consistent effort to establish an authentic, conscious and mindful connection between two. There’s always something new to realize about the one, because love isn’t the key to a person’s psyche — it’s a commitment to unselfishly (within your mindful boundaries) accept another person into your life to share your sacred space with. It’s a practice. It’s a life’s work.

“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.”
— James A. Baldwin